I believe that I’ve found my prince charming. I kissed a lot of frogs to get here. I’m now with someone I never thought would happen to me. We are in sync as we step through the challenges of our life together. No, we would not have ever been pegged as compatible. Not by a long shot. We are absolute complete opposites. In fact, I’m sure some people put money on us not making it. Yet here we are on the threshold of our wedding, committing ourselves to forever.
In one week, we will be saying “I do” in the eyes of God. But it goes beyond the religious sense of commitment, as we’ve experienced over the last 26 years. In reality, it’s more likely I will think “I do respect you but you’re wrong”, “I do love you, but I don’t like you right now”, “I do want to be your partner, but you’re pissing me off.” Our life will be full of “I dos” for a number of reasons. Real life reasons that sustain us beyond the alter. I do, and I am who I am, and he is who he is. And I like him. Let’s start there.
Laughter has always been a major part of our relationship. We can make each other laugh in the face of despair or awkwardness. The foundation of our relationship is the respect we have for each other. Love comes 3rd or 4th on the list of ingredients to a good relationship, in my humble opinion. Avoiding drama and keeping it real has been our strength for many years. We talk openly and honestly no matter what and try to meet up in a place of contentment if possible. If not, animosities dissipate to the graveyard of of “let’s agree to not agree.” Laughter usually ensues which can take your breath away, as you realize how trivial the arguments can be. Remember what’s important.
Beyond the dress and the pomp and circumstance there will be good times and bad, and I’m ready for that. After all this time together, we know what we’re getting into and welcome it. It’s not like most newly wedded couples who start their life together, we’ve had a life together. We’re just starting a new chapter. We’ve already done the courtship, the “getting to know you”, the comfortable stage. Our friendship is timeless. We are just two people who find comfort and strength in each other. As you say in Jr. High School, “I don’t like him, I LIKE LIKE him.” I like him so much I think I’ll marry him!
